Thursday, August 02, 2012

71

August 1st, 2012 - My late husbands birthday.  He would be 71 today.  He celebrated his 37th birthday in Heaven with Angels singing!  I celebrated it alone.........I think I am the only one left who remembers when his birthday is.  Oh, I could have called the kids and reminded them but they have their own life's and are busy, busy, busy!

I often wonder how my life would  have turned out if he had lived instead of dying at the young age of 34.  How would his children be affected if he had lived?  Don't get me wrong, I totally love my husband and I have spent more years with him than Dave and I had, and wondering isn't discrediting our marriage any....it's been a good one!    Just wondering how different things would be now and how different things might have been while the kids were growing up......it's really hard to imagine!  I suppose the kids would have had the benefit of being raised by two parents instead of one and I'm sure that would have made a difference.  I didn't remarry until the kids were pretty much grown up.  The youngest was 16, the next one was 17 1/2 and the oldest 19.  At that age the die is pretty well cast and I'm sure my husband didn't have that much of an effect on my kids.  They like him.  It wasn't always like that....for many years some of them resented him.  It's only in the last few years that they all have come to appreciate everything he has done for them in the past and even now.

So as I put an end to Dave's 71st Birthday I guess I will go on wondering when ever I think about his birthday......every year on Aug. 1st and other days that were special to us through out the year.

2 comments:

Magpie said...

Dave is probably seeing you from the other side thinking how kind it is of you to remember his birthday.

I'm wishing Dave a belated Happy Birthday!

Hugs!

Haley Almonte said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. Came across your blog just browsing around. I lost my brother when I was 15years ago about 5 years ago he was only 21 at the time.. Its always the WHAT IFS? that I seem to day dream about. Even though time has passed we will always miss our loved ones! KEEP BLOGING <3
-HaleyAlmonte