Saturday, September 20, 2008

The past week hasn't been much different than the last few weeks. Some of the family obligations have been reduced a tad, but not eliminated! As a matter of fact, one of Grandma's daughters and the sister of the uncle who was in the Veterans Facility in Ann Arbor was in an awful accident a couple days ago and rolled her vehicle. She has several upper body injuries, including both arms and has already had surgery to try and repair the damage. Both arms are broken, the left is much worse than the right and is broken in several different places. The uncle has been release from the Veteran's Facility and is now home and learning to cope with his disabilities on his own. Grandma has been released from the hospital, after fooling the doctors, and making a good recovery for someone who will be 91 on October 13th. She is in a lovely nursing facility doing physical rehabilitation to gain strength so she can return home. They are talking about letting her go home this coming Tuesday. She has already asked me if I can be there. I can't. Tuesday is my normal day to work, and I would rather be at work. I know that sounds terrible of me, but I can't help it. I have done so much already, that I just want to return to my normal life. And Uncle Jim has asked me to take him to the Doctors Monday morning and I have already told him 'no'. I do have to work Monday afternoon and am not sure I would be back in time that was a break for me.

Now here's a coincidence for you. I have a dear friend who I have talked with about learning to say 'no' to people. She volunteered to e-mail me daily with the word "NO". Anyway, I just received an e-mail from her with exactly that message in it. Thank you, my dear friend! I guess I need her to look out for me and perhaps she was thinking about me and sent me the message to assure me I was doing the right thing. So that about sums it all up for now. I want you all to leave a thank you for my guardian angel, Shawny!


Renee said...

I totally understand, Martie. You definitely have to say 'no' sometimes, especially when you have so many people asking you for help. You are a wonderful grandmother and friend!

Anonymous said...

You are a very wonderful person Martie. You deserve to reserve your time and energies where you feel they are best needed.

Many hugs!

Smalltown RN said...

Yes we do all need to learn how to say No sometimes and not feel guilty about it......learning our boundaries....hugs my friend...I will chat with you soon....

Pearl said...

My sweet friend,
You and I are made from the same mold....From my past experience please know you have got to take a break....Even if it does mean you are going to work.

The thing is that the more you do for people the more they expect. Somehow they forget you have a life and thank you is not even a response anymore.

I love doing things for people but I don't like being taken for granted.

Take care,